What is similar among all of us seems to be stronger than what is different. Whether you were born in 1957 or 1997, whether you are a Conserver or an Originator, when faced with uncomfortable change we all have a tendency to behave the same way.
Here are three common behaviors we see from people faced with change:
- We seek information. When we don’t get it, we interpret whatever clues are out there and draw conclusions from those clues. Like the child’s game of telephone, as those conclusions are shared they become increasingly distorted bits of “fact.” When faced with valid information disproving these facts the new data is viewed with suspicion and disbelief. Those facts that resulted from people making up “stuff” that turned into facts are extremely difficult to dislodge. This can often be the case when the rumor mill is the primary source of information.
- We respond with our emotions. Our first and strongest reactions to change are logical and natural when you consider that someone or something is pushing you out of the status quo – or the current state. If the emotional risk/reward analysis you do does not come out positive, there can be a negative reaction to the change. It’s possible that this emotional reaction will override your objective, rational reaction.
- We have a strong need to share our reactions and tend to seek out people who feel the same way. To validate our conclusions and seek affirmation of our emotional reaction we actively seek people who are experiencing the same reaction. Back and forth we share our fears and concerns and our conclusions, and as they go back and forth among us they become stronger and stronger in each of us.